This is one of my friend the details of the novel: the beginning of man and woman fall in love, every time they go for a walk, run in front of the total woman, proudly bouncing around in front, the men then followed him; sometimes woman running too fast, the men shouted in the back, but the woman and not pay any attention to him. At that time, the woman is independent, proud, free, not dependent on men.
Later, they married, and then out for a stroll - or let me quote the original word for it: "woman holding man's arm tightly, his face towards Baba, lips turning up and down, the men could not move a hand helplessly the other, blazing in his pockets, eyes straight ahead, incidentally points impatient expression silence is golden. "I am as a friend to capture the details of a good thing, because it just shows the details of the woman after marriage , a change in her own.
For example, in "Besieged City", the Sun is still very strong Roujia the beginning: in the way to Sam Lo University, suffered what she could eat - to eat meals, dirty and poor, have a place to live lice, but she did not complain; and, on the road seems to be a little pain, but she does not complain.
Not only that, she also had two feat, one that, when several people were trapped had no money to be mad, when Takamatsu remitted the money because of the lack of documents and official seal in the bank to fail, Sun has played a subjective Roujia initiative, the Education Bureau to find a local woman, with the help of this woman to open a proof, be considered to take the money free.
Another time, they accommodated a small hotel, because the room is not enough, Li Mei-t'ing, who has refused to give way, Sun Roujia will take the initiative, said that he can and Zhao Xin Mei Fang ground floor room to play. That time, Sun Roujia total disregard for the overall situation and the kind of morally spiritual ego, the kind of competent, that is not reserved and coy female character, is still very people admire.
However, after marriage it? She completely changed. First, the attitude of the other Hongjian changed, becoming preoccupied with and become narrow-minded, become irritable, that is, this time, she had to rely on, they do not want to disguise the strong, just want Fang to take care of himself. Unfortunately, Fang shoulders not wide enough, so she did not want to earn rely.
If the analogy, then, a woman in marriage is Shu Ting, "Oak" in the cotton, can be used as the image of the tree along with oak stand, but after marriage, a woman turned into a creeper into the vines, to be attached to other objects can climb on the growth, which will be missing some independence.
In fact, for many women, this is only normal, because, in their eyes - or my heart, marriage is to find a dependent, otherwise, why get married? And once had to rely on, of course, depend on the - - do not rely on white does not rely on, so it is understandable.
However, I still have to remind women, men can still occasionally by what, but not because of man to rely on to give up their autonomy and independence, if you really give up, yet it is like a battle play, you take the initiative to disarm. Married woman's loss of autonomy and independence, but also amounts to a surrender automatically!
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